Surrogacy: Safe Risk Taking

I’ve been seeing a lot of bad media around surrogacy recently, and I just have to say…There are some horror stories out there.  There are people who have gotten a terribly raw deal.

And there is a stark truth that surrogacy has also had big beautiful results for families, and has forever changed lives in positive ways in so many instances.

I’ll be honest…I consider myself a skeptic, and sometimes even a pessimist.  It’s easy to get sucked in to the stories and believe there’s no way out.  But let’s face it – LGBT folks have been creating families and having babies since the beginning of time and it has been the struggles that occur within the process which have inspired new design, innovation, technology, laws and relationships to be created to help the next couple that might face the same challenges. 

When we get stuck on the barriers, we can’t see the solution – And I frankly don’t want to live in a world that doesn’t support a little safe guarded risk taking.  Especially in terms of parenting.

Parenting is risky business.  Even if every legal, medical and emotional step of becoming a parent is seamless, it doesn’t mean your kid won’t turn out exactly how you didn’t expect.  And just because something doesn’t go according to plan, doesn’t mean it’s not worthwhile.  We choose to be parents because of the challenge – because we get to be terrified, nervous, excited, protective and on.  Because it reminds us that we are alive and we are okay.  That we can skin our knees and they will heal, that we can get our hearts broken – and they too will heal.  Our children remind us to take risks, to be present and to go with the flow.

So we decide to have children, and we take precautions to do so as safely as we possibly can.  And we trust ourselves to deal with whatever else might come up.

And hey…It’s all a learning process.


Because in the end, isn’t that what it’s all about?

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