Becoming a surrogate is one of the most meaningful things that a woman can do for fertility-challenged and LGBT+ people who are looking to start or grow their families. Every year, hundreds of babies are born with the help of a surrogate. If you’re thinking about becoming a surrogate, you likely have a lot of questions about the process, including whether you would be eligible.
2020 marks Arika’s 15th year with FSC, and through it all, she continues to feel both joy or sorrow with each and every case: “I never get tired of hearing that a pregnancy is confirmed, I get giddy for everyone. The flipside to that is that when a transfer doesn’t take, or pregnancy is lost, my heart breaks. It’s empathy at its finest I suppose!”
As we enter a new year, taking stock of the past year’s ups and downs and preparing for a fresh start, some couples and individuals may be thinking of growing their family through third-party reproductive services — whether through egg donation, embryo donation, surrogacy, or sperm donation.
If you’re considering becoming a surrogate to help hopeful parents grow their families, you probably have a lot of questions about how to get started—and whether you’re a good candidate for surrogacy in the first place.
There have been improvements in conversations about infertility, egg donation, and surrogacy, but we still have a long way to go. In an ideal world, people working through fertility issues or choosing egg donation and/or surrogacy would be able to do so free from the stress of being judged or from ignorance.
Unless you and your partner are LGBT, it is unlikely that you expected to need third-party reproduction in order to build your family. The idea of needing an egg donor, a sperm donor, or a gestational surrogate can be difficult to adjust to initially—it’s not normally what people imagine when they think of having a baby. This change in mentality takes a lot of effort; though once third-party reproduction is decided on and the process of working with an agency begins, life can veer toward being both filled with the excited anticipation of next steps and it all being potentially overwhelming.
Becoming an egg donor is an incredibly generous act – your time and energy are so valuable, and to donate your eggs so someone else can become a parent is one of the greatest gifts one person can give to another. Even today, as egg donation becomes an increasingly popular modern family building option, there is a lot of confusion about what it means to be an egg donor, what the donation process entails, and how important things like donor compensation actually work.
In the infamous case of Baby M in 1985, a traditional surrogate (not a gestational surrogate) answered an intended parent couple’s newspaper ad, delivered the couple’s baby, and then changed her mind, deciding she wanted to keep the child and forgo compensation.
You’ve made the transition to egg donation and are aware that you will need to select a donor to move forward on the journey to parenthood. In all cases in which a donor is needed (infertility, LGBTQ families, and single parents), you’ll need to establish the criteria for finding an egg donor.
If you’re considering becoming a surrogate to help hopeful parents build their families, you likely have a lot of questions about the process—what exactly it entails, how you’ll be compensated, and what you’ll be required to do. To help you get a better understanding of surrogacy, we’ll dive into seven common questions below.