As a gestational surrogate to 5 beautiful children, a girl in 2007, and boy/girl twins in both 2009 and 2012, one of the most common questions I am asked is “Why?”. Many people do not understand the motivations behind deciding to carry someone else’s baby.
In my own experience my husband and I decided we had our hands full with our two amazing boys. I love being pregnant, feeling a baby growing inside of me, and I even (I know it sounds strange) love being in labor. I happened to come across and ad for surrogacy when my youngest was just a few weeks old. At the time I didn’t really think much of it, but as time passed and I missed the feeling of being pregnant the thought of being a surrogate came back to me.
After I took the time to look into being a surrogate I realized what an amazing gift this would be. I could not imagine my life without my own boys. I tried to put myself in the shoes of someone who so badly wanted a child but could not conceive naturally. The thought of this broke my heart and so my journey as a three time surrogate began.
Through my own surrogacy journeys and now as a case manager helping Intended Parents and surrogates navigate this unique path I have met some wonderful people. I have heard many reasons for choosing to be a surrogate and often times the reasons are the same as my own. Some women have had close friends or family members struggle with infertility and feel this is a way to help give back. Many women simply can’t think of a more special thing to do for another person. I would truly say the least common reason I am given is for monetary gain. The women who choose to be surrogates are driven by factors far beyond money.
It takes an incredible woman to help someone, most often a stranger, in this most intimate way.
Article composed by Theresa Ferrara, Fertility SOURCE Companies Senior Regional Manager-Southwest Region
Theresa Ferrara, our Senior Regional Manager-Southwest Region, brings a wealth of knowledge and first-hand experience to her position for The Surrogacy SOURCE. Having been a two-time Gestational Surrogate herself, she served as a support group leader and mentor for other Gestational Surrogates going through the process with The Surrogacy SOURCE. Theresa’s sincerity and empathy shines through in her desire to guide Intended Parents and Surrogates through this wonderful journey. Theresa is passionate about working diligently to ensure all parties enjoy a smooth surrogacy process and delivery.