April 2015

Keep Your Personal Information Safe

In a day of E-mail, Facebook, Pinterest, Blogging, and LinkedIn the lines of privacy are blurred. The reality is nothing ,and I mean nothing, that is posted, sent, or shared over the Internet is private, safe, or secure.

What’s considered personal information when embarking upon a surrogacy cycle as an intended parent? Never ever give out social security numbers, your physical address, telephone numbers, places of work, release of medical information, to anyone but your attorney, IVF clinic, or your psychologist – especially before the legal contract is in place, signed, sealed and delivered between both parties.
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Infertility and the Media: Friends or Foes?

Recently a very close friend left me a lengthy voice mail after she returned from her honeymoon. In a whirlwind year she had finally met the world’s most amazing man and married him in a surprise ceremony after a storybook nine month courtship. She breathlessly recounted the events of the honeymoon and then got right down to business. “We want to have a baby,” she said. “I’m not sure if I should be worried, but we haven’t used any birth control in the past few months and so far, nothing. What do you think?” I should also mention that like me, my friend is in her mid-forties. She’s an educated, technology-savvy professional. I immediately realized that our next conversation would be a difficult one, and I also realized that I felt pretty guilty about it. How had I, who for over 10 years has been immersed in the world of third-party reproduction allowed one of my very best friends to escape her mid-thirties and into her forties without understanding the rules of diminished ovarian reserve and advanced maternal age? The answer is an uncomfortable one for me. I had assumed that she knew, just as I assumed most women my age know that a woman over 40 has a 1 in 3 chance of conceiving normally and a 35% chance of miscarriage and that these rates increase dramatically with each passing year. When I spoke with my friend later that week she said, “I feel so stupid- I figured it would just take a few injections and everything would be fine.” Heartbreaking.
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If You Are Going to Brave Surrogacy On Your Own

Surrogacy is expensive – incredibly expensive and it’s also complicated. That’s why it’s important to employ a professional surrogacy agency, a great IVF clinic and an excellent reproductive lawyer to help navigate through uncharted waters. However, it’s important to remember that during our quest to become parents we can feel extremely vulnerable, overwhelmed and sometimes downright desperate.
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I am an Attorney, Can I Represent Myself Instead of Hiring an Outside Attorney?

After selecting a surrogacy or egg donor agency, the knee jerk reaction might be “Sure why not” However, that isn’t correct. The answer should be – You always need a lawyer who specializes in third party reproduction to create a legal agreement between you and your egg donor or gestational surrogate.

It makes common sense – no two lawyers are created alike. Granted all lawyers go to law school to earn a Juris Doctorate. However, each lawyer chooses a specialty to practice. Some lawyers choose family law, while others choose things like patent law, business law, real estate law, international law, criminal lawyers, tax lawyers, insurance lawyers, divorce lawyer, etc..
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How To Tell Your Family You are Choosing to be a Gestational Surrogate

One of the most selfless things one woman can do for another is to become a gestational surrogate. This isn’t a walk in the park, it’s not easy, and you are going to need a lot of support from friends and family. However, it’s going to rate right up there as one of the most fulfilling things you will ever embark on aside from having your own children. That’s why it’s incredibly important to remember that the support you receive from your friends and family are going to be what helps you those most in dealing with all of those crazy emotions you might feel during pregnancy.
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How to survive the two week wait!

Regardless of whether you are carrying a pregnancy yourself or your gestational surrogate is carrying your baby for you the two week for a positive pregnancy result wait might as well be the two year wait! Everyone involved is always on pins and needles waiting!
Also, it doesn’t matter if this is your first two week wait or your fifth to manage it, to get through it, to survive you have to develop a strategy – better yet a system.
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For Your Surrogate: Understanding the Basics of your Surrogacy Experience

Congratulations! You have made a life changing decision to become a surrogate. Ask any of the amazing women who have taken this journey, and you will find that they would describe it as an incredibly fulfilling experience, and one that a lot of them have chosen to do more than once.Here are some helpful tips on getting the most out of your surrogacy experience:
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